Posts Tagged ‘sad’

Delhi Safari

They stand under four feet tall. Their hands and feet are adorably little. They wear small clothes, love tiny toys and have a favorite stuffed friend that is just the right size for cuddling.

But their feelings are so very big.

Preschoolers aged 2-5 years can have emotions that demand attention, validation, and resolution. They are intense, entangled, confusing, and surprisingly sophisticated. They produce tears and then suddenly, smiles.

These feelings overcome a child because it is something that is new and they do not know how to react.

The Brookie is 2 years old now and I have noticed that she has moved on from the “baby” shows to more “big kid” shows. She gets about 3 hours of ¬†“screen time” a day and she will watch some TV or play games on the tablet.

The movie in question, ” Delhi Safari”, ¬†started out great but took a sad turn in the first few minutes. I was sitting there watching with The Brookie then I heard a sob… She looked up at me with tears in her eyes, ” He’s dead… and now the baby don’t have a daddy.” I was stopped stone cold. “ummm… yeah his daddy pasted away and it is very sad. Look how sad the baby is now sweetie.” She was very emotional at this point and we cuddled each other on the couch. I told her that it is just a movie and it will get better. After a short break we started watching again.

The conversation that we had during that break was about emotions and how they are okay to feel. Little ones have these emotions and do not know how to react to them. This is where you need to explain what they are feeling. The Brookie was sad because what happened in the movie. She needed to know that it is okay to feel that way the she needed to react to that feeling. There is no need to hold it in and let it fester inside her. The same comes with frustration, anger, happy, anxiety, etc. All of these “new” things that she is feeling can be overwhelming and she can react the same way to different situation. It is important to express those feelings and let them out. (It is okay to cry you know) Sometimes she will tell us to leave her alone when she is upset so we let her do her thing. Within a few minutes she will come to us for comfort.

Our little ones are capable to have strong emotions and they need to learn how to deal with them. Just like adults need to do the same. It is safe to talk to people about your feelings. I grew up in a family that did not show much emotion and I still have issues with expressing mine today. That is something that I am still working on, but that does not mean that I tell my little one it will be okay and you need to stop when she is feeling different. Let those feelings out and explain the feeling to the little one. We have been doing this since The Brookie was 6 months old and I believe we have set the building stone for someone that will not be afraid to talk to someone when she is getting overwhelmed.